TeessideLive, Steve Gibson and Ben Houchen catch-all thread

[BoroMart]

I definitely didn’t post on it, not my way to comment negatively on someone’s passing. Think he must have me mixed up with someone else.

No idea what he’s referring to with getting him arrested either, haven’t a clue who he is.

Looking around a bit on Twitter though, seems he’s accused BoroMart of the same thing.

He did, and like you it simply didn't happen. I lost my wife to cancer in 2013, brought my kids up without their Mum, went on TV 3 times to talk about grief, and am a member of a number of widows and widower support groups.....last thing I'm going to do is mock someone for losing their partner. It just isn't going to happen.

Grief is complex, he's lashing out at anyone and everyone, I understand the anger at the world, but it's counter productive, it doesn't make you feel better, doesn't change the reality, doesn't bring her back. Easier to say it than actually control it though when your emotions are so up and down.

Tolerance levels can be very low particularly in the early days, you've not just lost your partner in crime, but your whole world is disrupted and your plans for the rest of your life are gone. I've no idea if he has young kids, but if he does your role changes, you become "Mum and Dad", if you are older you can be hit with real loneliness, dinner for 1, walking around an empty house, opening a wardrobe and seeing her clothes. You certainly find out who the true friends are too, some "friends" don't want your depression polluting their happy suburban lives, some don't trust you near their wives, some think you shouldn't even laugh for a year, and then the odd one takes you out and make sure you are not alone and dwelling on stuff. It's understandable that he's a mess, and he clearly has long standing issues with this board (rightly or wrongly) and is tarring everyone with the same brush. Maybe one day he'll see a bit more clearly that we're not all out to get him.

Whoever brought that thread into disrepute should be embarrassed, I've no idea who said what either, but it's one of those situations where if you have nothing good to say, say nothing. But obviously someone didn't and it got pulled. I hope he gets some grief councilling and family support.

 

[Philly-Red]

He did, and like you it simply didn't happen. I lost my wife to cancer in 2013, brought my kids up without their Mum, went on TV 3 times to talk about grief, and am a member of a number of widows and widower support groups.....last thing I'm going to do is mock someone for losing their partner. It just isn't going to happen.

Grief is complex, he's lashing out at anyone and everyone, I understand the anger at the world, but it's counter productive, it doesn't make you feel better, doesn't change the reality, doesn't bring her back. Easier to say it than actually control it though when your emotions are so up and down.

Tolerance levels can be very low particularly in the early days, you've not just lost your partner in crime, but your whole world is disrupted and your pans for the rest of your life are gone. I've no idea if he has young kids, but if he does your role changes, you become "Mum and Dad", if you are older you can be hit with real loneliness, dinner for 1, walking around an empty house, opening a wardrobe and seeing her clothes. You certainly find out who the true friends are too, some "friends" don't want your depression polluting their happy suburban lives, some don't trust you near their wives, some think you shouldn't even laugh for a year, and then the odd one takes you out and make sure you are not alone and dwelling on stuff. It's understandable that he's a mess, and he clearly has long standing issues with this board (rightly or wrongly) and is tarring everyone with the same brush. Maybe one day he'll see a bit more clearly that we're not all out to get him.

Whoever brought that thread into disrepute should be embarrassed, I've no idea who said what either, but it's one of those situations where if you have nothing good to say, say nothing. But obviously someone didn't and it got pulled. I hope he gets some grief councilling and family support.

So sorry to hear that, glad you’re doing better though!