My already fragile mental health

Aet290204

Well-known member
Sorry for everything you are going through but I think you need professional help. Call the Samaritans and/or speak to the critical care team at Roseberry Park. I had to call them twice and they were amazing. Once when I was about to "do it", like I said I no longer feel or think about ending it all, but you need to call

Samaritans - 116123
Roseberry Park - 01642 837300
I called Samaritans
You don’t get through straight away
You end up in a call queue
I didn’t bother
I am supposed to be on a waiting list with MIND but clearly have been forgotten
 

Otto42

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Please reach out and talk to someone, they really do want to listen......if you can't get through immediately keep trying.....and write down how you feel, as you are doing on here......I've been where you are and got through, sure you have also and seen things better in the past? It will get better again. Keep posting #UTB
 

dan_ashcroft

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One area that is worth looking at is to try and see the best in people. If not, the world can soon seem like a selfish place. Go out of your way to help people whenever you can, as it can also bring out the best in others. There are a lot of people out there who are suffering too, and a passing glint of brightness between yourselves can go a long way. Little things such as thanking people for what they have done can make life a nicer place to be.
 

FatFrank

Active member
Don't be dubious by this. This is why more and more people are doing cold water swimming.. I did for a few months last year and swam in the North Sea at 6am each day but the round trip was too much before I started work. Loads of groups out there for it and not recommended to do it alone :) another way to meet people.

I'd love to live closer to the sea because I'd 100% do this every day! Seaton Carew every morning would be heavy on the fuel tank.

I do take in a sea-dip once a week though, although I've never come across anyone else doing the same. I get a few odd looks from dog walkers mind. Definitely recommended not going by yourself - I did at first and had a couple of close scrapes, including going into shock one morning when the wind felt like -20. Had to think really hard just to dry myself off and get my clothes back on, took about 30 minutes in total. Now I go with my wife and she just stands patiently on the beach.
 

sadgit

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Yeah sorry I did forget you weren't local. However I still recommend going to AMC on a Monday night. They have clubs all over the country. The facilitators are people who have also struggled and know about local people/places who can help. I had 6 months of weekly free counselling via mine. It is an option mate, I promise you.


I do understand the whole WFH as I am in the exact same boat and I thought I would like it but work ignored me, after I came back from 6 months on the sick. I had nothing to do while trying to "get better", it made me worse at one point.
 

Aet290204

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I do understand the whole WFH as I am in the exact same boat and I thought I would like it but work ignored me, after I came back from 6 months on the sick. I had nothing to do while trying to "get better", it made me worse at one point.
It is being dressed up at our place as being beneficial to work life balance.

reality is they should be saying you can work at home more often but should be office based

Instead we have a situation where you can base yourself anywhere and people are opting for permanent home working.

it is a joke. I was asked to contribute to someone’s wedding collection this week and I’ve never met the guy or spoke to hIm, in fact I don’t even know what he looks like.

being alone all day with no contact or conversation has a detrimental effect on my life - I bang on about it but no one listens to me.

Hell I even came back from six months off sick and only one person made any effort to ask how I was and welcome me back. Twenty two years service means **** all.

I know it’s time to look for a new job but in my current mental state I think it would see me off.
 

sadgit

Active member
It is being dressed up at our place as being beneficial to work life balance.

reality is they should be saying you can work at home more often but should be office based

Instead we have a situation where you can base yourself anywhere and people are opting for permanent home working.

it is a joke. I was asked to contribute to someone’s wedding collection this week and I’ve never met the guy or spoke to hIm, in fact I don’t even know what he looks like.

being alone all day with no contact or conversation has a detrimental effect on my life - I bang on about it but no one listens to me.

Hell I even came back from six months off sick and only one person made any effort to ask how I was and welcome me back. Twenty two years service means **** all.

I know it’s time to look for a new job but in my current mental state I think it would see me off.

We have had similar paths recently. I was off sick for those 6 months and after 4 months, no one from work (boss, hr etc)had contacted me, until I posted about my struggles on a business site. I came back after 6 months, then my new manager spoke to me 2 times in 8 months, my day back and the day I was told I was being made redundant. I ended up staying as I found a new role in the company, 3 months on and I am not sure I made the right choice, but same as you, not in the right place to find a new job. I also have long service, 24 years here. So I do 100% understand. I did also hate the long commute but a couple of days would be nice, not 5 days in a bedroom. Please do what I did and got out to meet people outside work, as I had/have very few friends due to my anxiety and lack of self worth over my life and to walk into a room or a gym class with total strangers, scared me shiteless.... I couldn't do it 18 months ago but I can now. Help is out there, I know and struggled to get it, but life is WORTH LIVING. Don't give up! PM me, happy to send my number.
 

Laughing

Well-known member
Great to see the help being offered on here. I genuinely had no idea that mental health effected so many people.
 

Aet290204

Well-known member
Great to see the help being offered on here. I genuinely had no idea that mental health effected so many people.
And that is the crux of it.
It’s not talked about.
I’ve struggled for twenty odd years.
Been called odd, strange, misery guts, faggot, poof etc.
Wears you down mate.
Thanks for your support
We have had similar paths recently. I was off sick for those 6 months and after 4 months, no one from work (boss, hr etc)had contacted me, until I posted about my struggles on a business site. I came back after 6 months, then my new manager spoke to me 2 times in 8 months, my day back and the day I was told I was being made redundant. I ended up staying as I found a new role in the company, 3 months on and I am not sure I made the right choice, but same as you, not in the right place to find a new job. I also have long service, 24 years here. So I do 100% understand. I did also hate the long commute but a couple of days would be nice, not 5 days in a bedroom. Please do what I did and got out to meet people outside work, as I had/have very few friends due to my anxiety and lack of self worth over my life and to walk into a room or a gym class with total strangers, scared me shiteless.... I couldn't do it 18 months ago but I can now. Help is out there, I know and struggled to get it, but life is WORTH LIVING. Don't give up! PM me, happy to send my number.
mate I appreciate that. Happy for you to message me as well.
 

grumpyoldgit

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One again the board shows that we're not just interested in football. It's gratifying to see such support for people who are suffering with problems.
AET please keep the faith and let us know how you're doing. We're all here for you. (y)
 
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