Gosh this is a difficult time of year for me

Uwefuchs said:
I was gonna go on a rant on this thread about why the hell do we keep persisting with this stupid thing of putting the clocks back every year. It really makes me mad!

Then I thought it probably doesn't do me any good to wind myself up about something which is totally out of my control. 🤦😂
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I too hate this time of year.

For the first couple of weeks after the clicks go back my sleep pattern and body clock is utterly fkd. I went to bed the other night at 7pm.

This time last year I was seeing a therapist . She told me that she wished we didn’t put the clocks back and if we stopped doing it it could potentially be the one single thing that would help stop people’s mental health from deteriorating at this time of year.

All the best to scubes.
 
only a few more weeks till the days start to get longer and we head into a lovely Spring then a crap wet Summer again :D :D

I am one who actually likes this time of year now, I used to (no joke) scream at the weather when it was raining at this time year. I learned to embrace it, I cannot control it, so why let it control me. I still go out for a walk, I just get wet. I went and fed the ducks in the rain the other morning (not bread people :) ) I loved it.

It also gives me chance to stick on a console and play a game I was putting off in the summer.
 
Good to see you posting on here. Sorry things aren't easy for you at the moment.

Can't really offer any advice only good wishes.

One possible suggestion though, is there anything locally that you could volunteer with? Something that would fill some time over the dark months as well as giving that positive feeling you can get from doing something to help others. Also a good way of meeting other people.
 
BBC produced an interesting article on how Nordic/Scandi people endure/embrace winter. After all, they have less sunlight than us and it's a bit chillier too! They use the word "friluftsliv" it translates literally as ‘fresh-air life’, and is all about embracing the great outdoors whatever the weather, being active, and immersing yourself in nature.

It's also worth knowing the the reason we are pale skinned up here is that "white" skin is better at creating vitamin D from less sunlight. So if you are a vampiric ginna this is your time! Seriously though get out into the daylight at lunchtime even if there are clouds and rain and do take a Vit D supplement especially if you are darker skinned of whatever ethnicity.
 
Another possibility with regards the coffee moring would be for one member of the Group to have a seperate coffee morning Scubs. I can be painfully shy and then the opposite. 1 to 1 can be easier to cope with than 1 to 8 say.

I unfortunately don't live in the area, so can't physically join in.

The MFC Foundation do run a weekly online quiz and there might be other things to bring people together to help reduce depression and anxiety.
 
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PudseyBoro said:
Do you have Andys Man Club close to you.
A really good outlet and they meet weekly.
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Good shout. Helped me a lot for a couple of years. Helped so much with my anxiety. Hard to walk in to door, but once you do, you have a room full of people who just know and new friends.
 
Scubahood said:
The reduction of daylight
The pressures to be 'happy' in the build-up to and during the festive period
The festive period highlighting things I know I'll never attain
Needing an hip replacement (at 39) so not being able to go on long walks/partake in vigorous exercise
Autumns all-too-fleeting aesthetic beauty making way for Winters deathly grip

All compounded to chip away at an already weathered mental ruin...
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Morning Scoobs.
Hate Christmas - have done since about 8 years old.
Prefere gardening or going a long way from the city to find peace and serenity.
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If you don't play music, find an instrument you like and immerse yourself in learning. It's a great way to occupy yourself on dark evenings and is a lot of fun.

I hate it getting dark early, but went out to rehearse some songs with a couple of friends this week and had a great time, forgot about what was on the other side of the rehearsal room door for 4 hours, learned some new songs, and played some old ones. it was brilliant!
 
Redwurzel said:
Another possibility with regards the coffee moring would be for one member of the Group to have a seperate coffee morning initially with just one member and Scubs. I can be painfully shy and then the opposite.
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Happy to oblige with this idea Mr Wurzel.
 
Thank you all for your kind words of support, advice and wisdom, it really does mean a great deal. Also, I hope any of you who are also struggling can take some positives from this thread and my best wishes go out to one and all.

Am going to try and cut back on the sugar, start taking vitamin D tablets on an evening, try and get on my spinning bike as much as possible (hip permitting as I'm on my feet all day at work) and read Bob Mortimer's autobiography which I started last week. Oh and listen to lots and lots of music, obviously...
 
I found that Mark Davies A love letter to football book to be comforting in the way that shared experiences (the Boro, not the disease) can be.
 
Scubahood said:
Thank you all for your kind words of support, advice and wisdom, it really does mean a great deal. Also, I hope any of you who are also struggling can take some positives from this thread and my best wishes go out to one and all.

Am going to try and cut back on the sugar, start taking vitamin D tablets on an evening, try and get on my spinning bike as much as possible (hip permitting as I'm on my feet all day at work) and read Bob Mortimer's autobiography which I started last week. Oh and listen to lots and lots of music, obviously...
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If you get chance to listen to the audiobook as well I'd recommend it. I laughed a lot! His delivery is as funny as you would expect.
 
London_Boro said:
If you don't play music, find an instrument you like and immerse yourself in learning. It's a great way to occupy yourself on dark evenings and is a lot of fun.

I hate it getting dark early, but went out to rehearse some songs with a couple of friends this week and had a great time, forgot about what was on the other side of the rehearsal room door for 4 hours, learned some new songs, and played some old ones. it was brilliant!
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Playing an instrument, or singing, is very good for the soul and very healing... Being brilliant is not essential, feeling it is.
 
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