Gosh this is a difficult time of year for me

Hap said:
I made a couple and they were great fun. Lasted a year or so each. I bought a proper one in the end, but these were great for next to nothing 🙂
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simple things, that waste time and are not destructive* are exactly what I need this time of year. Sure I'm not alone.

*indirect reference to the reason we all came here. Maybe not the reason we all stay
 
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Scubahood said:
The reduction of daylight
The pressures to be 'happy' in the build-up to and during the festive period
The festive period highlighting things I know I'll never attain
Needing an hip replacement (at 39) so not being able to go on long walks/partake in vigorous exercise
Autumns all-too-fleeting aesthetic beauty making way for Winters deathly grip

All compounded to chip away at an already weathered mental ruin...
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I often think how good it would be to live in Australia for the winter months..

Well up for trying all the hint and tricks like meditation and vitamin d! Keep em coming!
 
sweet_left_foot said:
the same. Everything you say rings true. The only thing I can do is focus on the small things that happen this time of year that I can't do otherwise. Primarily lighting fires.

Just wish I had a chimney.
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You aren’t one of the bairns that burned down Wesley chapel in Hartlepool are you?
 
Boro in Devon said:
I share your thoughts about this time of year. Christmas is a difficult time for me.

In a multitude of blood tests recently, they discovered that I am very low on Vitamin D.
You normally get vitamin D from being out in the sunshine, but it is hard to achieve that in the autumn. I have been given a six week booster and also my daughter has given me some powerful pills that she has access to, she is medically trained.
The difference has been very noticeable, physically I feel much better, all the aches and pains have diminished. My mood has also lifted dramatically and am feeling quite positive.
It may not work for everybody, but may be worth a try.
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I’ve just had the same with same vit d deficiency results and a prescription for boosters. It’s amazing how shiit a vit d deficiency makes you feel.
 
Scubahood said:
The reduction of daylight
The pressures to be 'happy' in the build-up to and during the festive period
The festive period highlighting things I know I'll never attain
Needing an hip replacement (at 39) so not being able to go on long walks/partake in vigorous exercise
Autumns all-too-fleeting aesthetic beauty making way for Winters deathly grip

All compounded to chip away at an already weathered mental ruin...
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Keep going Scuba, you and I both know from experience that brighter days do come round again. At this time of year I tend to focus on the fact that it really won’t be too long til it’s February and then in a blink it’s March and the onset of spring and summer. I love Christmas but hate November and January I must admit. Anyway, look after yourself and keep talking mate.
 
Good to see you posting Scuba (y)
Sat here listening to the first Iron Maiden album, at work but having a very stressful time with problems back home, which is torture when stuck away at sea, the music definitely helps me (y) as well as having hope things can turn better 🌅
 
I hope you’re ok mate.

I can relate to a lot of what you’re saying. My best advice is to get outdoors. If you have social anxiety then this is normal and don’t put yourself into situations that you don’t want to be in if it’s too much. Then try to build up to it.

A walk on your own in the daylight will do you wonders and will hopefully be less stressful.
 
Scubahood said:
The reduction of daylight
The pressures to be 'happy' in the build-up to and during the festive period
The festive period highlighting things I know I'll never attain
Needing an hip replacement (at 39) so not being able to go on long walks/partake in vigorous exercise
Autumns all-too-fleeting aesthetic beauty making way for Winters deathly grip

All compounded to chip away at an already weathered mental ruin...
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Was thinking exactly the same thing yesterday, Scuba. Walking the hound back home, this time of year and early dark nights. Can not stand it. I remember sort of burning up in a bit of a rage simply because it was getting dark early. I can't explain it at all.

.. but since the black dog got hold of me, as I got older I find it incredibly difficult once the clocks go back and these early dark nights creep in.

Not sure if it has anything to do with the fact I have experienced most traumas in life during this time of year or if it is just an irrational feeling generally I cannot seem to shift. Christ knows. (Does he?) haha

Otherwise, I hope you're well man and I am glad every time I see you posting.

Crikey, I have been struggling badly lately, though, and getting very unsteady and not settled at all. But it's not like we've not heard it all before. I have learned a lot more about myself, though, speaking to doctors and therapists and it feels like I am figuring out a giant puzzle that has only taken nearly 40 years to figure out.

Anyway. UTB and I hope we win this weekend \m/
 
Sorry, I cannot provide any specific advice. However I wish you well. Along with loads of other people by the look of things.
 
You're not alone mate, so many of us dislike this time of year.

Just been thinking back (this morning) to when I used to do a lot of running, autumn time would be a time when marathon training season would start and I'd really embrace the autumn at the time. It felt like a fresh start and the winter was actually a period where I'd feel like I was progressing towards a goal.

I'm not saying everyone should sign up for a marathon but I suppose you could replace the marathon with a goal of some kind of goal that you could work towards over the winter. Maybe if the winter was a time where you get chance to enjoy a certain activity that you can't do over the summer months?

This might not work for everyone and there's no silver bullet but I think it's the type of thing that would probably work for me the more I think about it.

From the information that I read and personal experience I think its important to get outside in the outdoors everyday, try to move (exercise is good but even just moving around is beneficial), try to have some positive social interactions with others and find some activities that you can lose yourself in.

But more than anything I just wish you the best.
 
Agree this is the worst time of year, worse than early January IMO, at least there it feels like spring isn't too far away. Seems a mile off right now. I'm defo a summer person.

Suppose at least I get to wear jumpers. I do like a good jumper or hoody 😂

Another suggestion is to get a light box to replace some of that exposure to sunlight and lift the mood a bit.
 
Cosmonaut said:
Was thinking exactly the same thing yesterday, Scuba. Walking the hound back home, this time of year and early dark nights. Can not stand it. I remember sort of burning up in a bit of a rage simply because it was getting dark early. I can't explain it at all.

.. but since the black dog got hold of me, as I got older I find it incredibly difficult once the clocks go back and these early dark nights creep in.

Not sure if it has anything to do with the fact I have experienced most traumas in life during this time of year or if it is just an irrational feeling generally I cannot seem to shift. Christ knows. (Does he?) haha

Otherwise, I hope you're well man and I am glad every time I see you posting.

Crikey, I have been struggling badly lately, though, and getting very unsteady and not settled at all. But it's not like we've not heard it all before. I have learned a lot more about myself, though, speaking to doctors and therapists and it feels like I am figuring out a giant puzzle that has only taken nearly 40 years to figure out.

Anyway. UTB and I hope we win this weekend \m/
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I was gonna go on a rant on this thread about why the hell do we keep persisting with this stupid thing of putting the clocks back every year. It really makes me mad!

Then I thought it probably doesn't do me any good to wind myself up about something which is totally out of my control. 🤦😂
 
I too struggle this time of year especially because of my mental health. I dont understand how people love it "I love being all snuggly at home, I love big jumpers" etc etc. I hate getting up on the dark, I hate coming home in the dark, I hate being confined to home because of the rubbish weather. I do now take vitamin D tablets which take the edge off, but it's still hard. I've set myself a task this winter....I love a book but I've never read any of the classics - Catcher in the Rye, 1984 etc...so I'm targeting doing that to keep me sane and occupied this year.
 
Legz said:
I too struggle this time of year especially because of my mental health. I dont understand how people love it "I love being all snuggly at home, I love big jumpers" etc etc. I hate getting up on the dark, I hate coming home in the dark, I hate being confined to home because of the rubbish weather. I do now take vitamin D tablets which take the edge off, but it's still hard. I've set myself a task this winter....I love a book but I've never read any of the classics - Catcher in the Rye, 1984 etc...so I'm targeting doing that to keep me sane and occupied this year.
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Steinbeck is great, too, if you fancy a really good classic. There are so many great books to get absorbed into.
 
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