Gosh this is a difficult time of year for me

Scubahood

Scubahood

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The reduction of daylight
The pressures to be 'happy' in the build-up to and during the festive period
The festive period highlighting things I know I'll never attain
Needing an hip replacement (at 39) so not being able to go on long walks/partake in vigorous exercise
Autumns all-too-fleeting aesthetic beauty making way for Winters deathly grip

All compounded to chip away at an already weathered mental ruin...
 
November is ****, you’re not alone. 👍

I refuse to think about Christmas until mid-December, and that includes presents. The people who start banging on about it now are just intolerable, it’s not an “important” event in my life, personally.

Of course the kids love it but hyping them up from October helps no one.
 
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Scubahood said:
The reduction of daylight
The pressures to be 'happy' in the build-up to and during the festive period
The festive period highlighting things I know I'll never attain
Needing an hip replacement (at 39) so not being able to go on long walks/partake in vigorous exercise
Autumns all-too-fleeting aesthetic beauty making way for Winters deathly grip

All compounded to chip away at an already weathered mental ruin...
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Plod on Scuba, I like Christmas and enjoy the break. Plus it turns the year over ready for spring. Have you had any news on when you get your hip done?
 
Have you ever tried meditation? I always recommend this to people who are suffering mentally, including anxiety, because it sorted me out. I began to realize that depression was nature's way of telling me to change, that I had to see things differently to my normal negative mind-set. In fact, I am now grateful for that suffering.

Here's a quote from somebody who explains their meditation process better than me...

When you become aware of your true nature as consciousness and realize you are not your mind, you begin to realize how your mind creates stories, many of which are fear based. With the expanded awareness (from meditation) of how your perceptions of reality are being influenced by these stories, you can chose how you respond to these stories. As you release attachment to the stories, the mind calms and the urgency of reaction dissipates. There is less desire to jump to conclusions and more space to allow life to unfold.

Something else that shifted significantly in my awareness was my perception of this world and all of the people and events in my physical reality. I softened my perception of things as good and bad and accepted that each one is an experience. This softening helped me to release judgement, relax and enjoy everyday life more fully. It also helped me to appreciate that there is value (love) in everything, including pain, fear sadness and grief. You don’t stop caring about things, it’s simply that your perspective shifts and you realize that your natural state of being is peace and acceptance.

I hope you find your path through this.
 
The period between the clocks moving is a low mood setter for me, if I’m not careful. I need to be outdoors everyday really and work limits when I can do that.

Planning things I enjoy really helps. Not always something that costs money, going somewhere, setting a date aside to do something or see someone. Getting that date in the diary. Something ahead that’s coming along. That really helps me.

Be kind to yourself. Remember, it is natural not to feel okay sometime and you are not alone.

Maybe you could spy on the coffee club guys, just pass through and have a nosey out of curiosity and report back 🤣 (just kidding)
 
Bristolboro said:
Have you ever tried meditation? I always recommend this to people who are suffering mentally, including anxiety, because it sorted me out. I began to realize that depression was nature's way of telling me to change, that I had to see things differently to my normal negative mind-set. In fact, I am now grateful for that suffering.

Here's a quote from somebody who explains their meditation process better than me...

When you become aware of your true nature as consciousness and realize you are not your mind, you begin to realize how your mind creates stories, many of which are fear based. With the expanded awareness (from meditation) of how your perceptions of reality are being influenced by these stories, you can chose how you respond to these stories. As you release attachment to the stories, the mind calms and the urgency of reaction dissipates. There is less desire to jump to conclusions and more space to allow life to unfold.

Something else that shifted significantly in my awareness was my perception of this world and all of the people and events in my physical reality. I softened my perception of things as good and bad and accepted that each one is an experience. This softening helped me to release judgement, relax and enjoy everyday life more fully. It also helped me to appreciate that there is value (love) in everything, including pain, fear sadness and grief. You don’t stop caring about things, it’s simply that your perspective shifts and you realize that your natural state of being is peace and acceptance.

I hope you find your path through this.
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Interesting read that mate thanks, I will look into it 👍
 
Hap said:
The period between the clocks moving is a low mood setter for me, if I’m not careful. I need to be outdoors everyday really and work limits when I can do that.

Planning things I enjoy really helps. Not always something that costs money, going somewhere, setting a date aside to do something or see someone. Getting that date in the diary. Something ahead that’s coming along. That really helps me.

Be kind to yourself. Remember, it is natural not to feel okay sometime and you are not alone.

Maybe you could spy on the coffee club guys, just pass through and have a nosey out of curiosity and report back 🤣 (just kidding)
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I'm pretty easy to notice unfortunately, or I may have been tempted 😉
 
sweet_left_foot said:
the same. Everything you say rings true. The only thing I can do is focus on the small things that happen this time of year hat I can't do otherwise. Primarily lighting fires.

Just wish I had a chimney.
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I made a tandoori oven out of four plant pots (2 big and 2 small ones) with vermiculite and fire cement. Cost next to nothing, great for fires in the garden (didn’t last forever tbh) and good fun… beats a chimney, being outside…
 
Good, it will get you started walking a bit of distance. There some half decent music threads up at the moment.
I've really enjoyed the input by lots of different posters, its funny where we start out with music and end up at.

There lots of stuff I wouldn't give a listen to and now cant get enough of. Take a look I think they're on the front page still.

I listen to a lot of instrumentals from the 60s to the present day I always did like them anyway, but there's a distinct lack of that sort of music now.🚀🤖

Scubahood said:
I'm at the docs next week to try and get the ball rolling so fingers crossed for a fairly quick route 🤞
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I share your thoughts about this time of year. Christmas is a difficult time for me.

In a multitude of blood tests recently, they discovered that I am very low on Vitamin D.
You normally get vitamin D from being out in the sunshine, but it is hard to achieve that in the autumn. I have been given a six week booster and also my daughter has given me some powerful pills that she has access to, she is medically trained.
The difference has been very noticeable, physically I feel much better, all the aches and pains have diminished. My mood has also lifted dramatically and am feeling quite positive.
It may not work for everybody, but may be worth a try.
 
SocraTees said:
Hey @guisborough_rob would it be possible to give me a heads up next time you get together please? I might like to attend and @Scubahood, I would be more than happy to pick you up and take you along should you wish? Its quite normal to feel a degree of anxiety when trying new things. Anyway, no pressure though mate........just a friendly offer. Take care and hope you feel better soon.
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Thanks for the offer and the kind words mate 👍
 
Hey Scoobs. Sorry to hear that you are struggling. I don't believe in magic bullets but I do believe that you can make little improvements that help. If you don't take a vitamin D supplement, do that. If you can sit outside at lunchtime and listen to or watch the birds do that. Take a cold shower perhaps? Little things. Music is great therapy and to get discussion going. How about one of your "Currently Listening to..." threads? I often found some useful stuff that was new to me on there.

But most of all take care of yourself and that includes not being too hard on yourself.

Peace fella.
 
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