Happening to my Dad right now but we're all kind of pretending that is isn't. He hasn't been diagnosed with dementia but we can all see the signs. He knows that there's something wrong himself and I have to go over there and babysit him so that he doesn't burn the house down when my Mam is out doing her own thing. He's still in there somewhere though. He has good days and bad days. It's an awful and really cruel thing.When someone has dementia and the more you see them, the less the person is the one you once knew.
Hard to sustain clinical separation from emotions.
Anyone else been in this boat?
I need to try and get some sleep now if I can get any but I'm sorry to hear about your Mum Harry. And I think that you're right. All that you can really do is try to spend as much time with your loved ones as you can when they're getting older and having problems and that's why I moved back to Teesside. I don't give a crap about myself but my parents mean the world to me and it's horrible seeing my Dad deteriorating like this.Awful illness. It took my mum. She was a very proud woman and cared deeply about her appearance, what people thought of her etc, and step by step the condition took everything away from her. Horrible to watch it happen. I found the easiest thing to do was just be with her in her world and not to disagree and correct her, but it does take a fine degree of detachment to do that, and not everyone can.
It's just hard is all it is mate. Just be as kind to yourself as you are to him, you're important.I need to try and get some sleep now if I can get any but I'm sorry to hear about your Mum Harry. And I think that you're right. All that you can really do is try to spend as much time with your loved ones as you can when they're getting older and having problems and that's why I moved back to Teesside. I don't give a crap about myself but my parents mean the world to me and it's horrible seeing my Dad deteriorating like this.
Sorry to hear that mate - Reading that makes me think where do you get the strength from but while you are going through it, you somehow find it.Been so rapid.
Y`day Mam sat in her chair in her care home and told sis "I just want to sit here and die".
She couldnt recognise anyone.
Physically she has also given up.
Had a heart attack day before the Reading game..
Decline mentally has been so rapid.
18 months ago we got her in a care home after a battle with Adult Social Care and Social Services..
Only our sis can see her because her home is in lock - down.
I got sent a photograph yesterday.
If I ring - she doesnt know who I am.
Dad went with the same thing in 2019.
Its much easier when its someone else`s relative you are nursing and caring for.
So sorry to read this mate. It can happen literally overnight. My mum had been forgetful and other mild symptoms but then one day she furtively led me up the corridor and begged me to help her escape, as the staff had all been murdered and replaced by clones, and she was going to be next. I almost laughed in shock but to her it was real and terrifying. Luckily that level of paranoia receded a bit but she went rapidly downhill afterwards.Been so rapid.
Y`day Mam sat in her chair in her care home and told sis "I just want to sit here and die".
She couldnt recognise anyone.
Physically she has also given up.
Had a heart attack day before the Reading game..
Decline mentally has been so rapid.
18 months ago we got her in a care home after a battle with Adult Social Care and Social Services..
Only our sis can see her because her home is in lock - down.
I got sent a photograph yesterday.
If I ring - she doesnt know who I am.
Dad went with the same thing in 2019.
Its much easier when its someone else`s relative you are nursing and caring for.