I can echo this. My daughter is 5, we had her ASD confirmed 2 years ago. Hers mainly manifest as sensory and social miscues, she cannot go into any environment that is incredibly noisy, but if its quiet and the noise builds up, she is OK. She also is very particular about her toys, everything has to be in its place and WW3 erupts if it isn't. My wife and I found it difficult at first. We had her hearing tested as she didn't seem to respond to stimuli, but that was fine. Then over time, we realised her behaviour was a little different so we had her tested. She got a confirmed diagnosis just before she turned 4. Once you get the diagnosis, it can really help with funding and support for your child.
1. Disability support and blue badge.
2. Specific support from a trained professional who comes once a month to assess your child and provide advice on things to do to help development. Develops a development plan for the parents.
3. We both taught ourselves sign language as our daughter found it easier to communicate that way before she could speak, and she still uses it now to sometimes emphasise a point.
4. A trained teaching assistant who stays with your child through school that gives them a support person that they know and trust and can rely on.
5. Working with the school to ensure there are places designated quiet areas where children can go if they have sensory overload.
6. Autistic people don't like surprises. Planning and preparation go a long way to making lives easier on both sides.
We also both read this book 'Can you See Me by Libby Scott & Rebecca Westcott' which gives an insight in to how autistic people think and react to situations. Its really good for understanding a mindset.
Autism is a challenge. We are thankful ours is on the mild end of the spectrum, and even then, its challenging, but we wouldn't change her for the world. She's incredibly happy, a total prankster and she has so much empathy for other kids, it makes my heart ache when I see it. There is another boy in her class who is further on the spectrum and the kids are scared of him due to not understanding he is different. Our daughter seems to have connected with him, like minded souls I guess.