It appears that there are two different ways of locking down which then have two differing outcomes.
You can either lockdown hard, fast and strictly. This then brings the R rate down well below 1 before going for a phased opening which should keep the rate of infection low and the death count low.
Or you go for a less strict lockdown and start opening up quickly when the R is just below one. Add to that you are allowed to travel across the country and even out of the country. This will result in a lowering of the rate of infection, but will always be higher than the first option. This also maintains a higher tail to the death rate, particularly when there are issues in measuring the death rate. This longer tail will result in a lack of confidence that things are getting better and the economy will suffer longer as a result.
In my opinion England has taken the second option and will continue to suffer from this for a long time. Wales, Ireland and Scotland have taken a stricter version and their death rates are significantly lower.
Most parts of Europe appear to have taken the first option, however they will suffer outbreaks particularly opening up to tourism.
How it effects people depends which part of the population you belong too. The younger you are, yes if you catch it you will most likely recover, however there are after effects as bourn out by my daughter. The older you are, the more likely you may have major problems and why would you take the risk. I think the very oldest are very pragmatic and are happy to take a risk as all they want to do is see their families.
There is no solution that pleases everyone, as everyone is different. They best think any of us can do is act with kindness, understanding and with care not to do anything that will affect anyone else. So, wash your hands, wear a mask, keep your distance don't drink too much in the pub, but go out and spend your money, enjoy life and support the Boro!