Trust me, it’s a lot easier to get trapped than you think. I’m a strong willed, big intimidating guy. I was trapped for years. Not so much physical for me it was verbal, emotional and psychological abuse. I knew I needed to get out but couldn’t figure out a safe exit. Thankfully no kids but did have a house and 2 dogs. I knew I’d never be free, I knew she’d never let me leave or leave me alone if I left and i knew if I ever found anyone else she would do her best to make their life a living misery as well. I was in a dark place and would regularly contemplate taking my own life.
Finally left her but every fear I had became a reality, the harassment stepped up to new levels, she would make frequent complaints about me to the police claiming I was abusing her and harassing her or I’d stolen from her, one claim even went as far as to say I’d tried to poison her. Thankfully the police were really sympathetic and could tell it was lies as I had witnesses and evidence that contradicted her claims and could prove otherwise. They wouldn’t prosecute her though as they felt sorry for her and said she’s just handled your break up badly it’s not her fault. She also started several money claims against me in civil court for just made up stuff, they went all the way to court before being thrown out, they wouldn’t have her for perjury though which was really frustrating, think it was after the 4th one the judge told her no more but this had span on a couple of years after separating. When she found out I was dating she went after them mostly just cyber stuff but it was relentless, when my partner got pregnant it stepped up a level, she was pregnant with twins and the abuse went on throughout the pregnancy made worse when we lost one of them mid way. We had to deal with a few false social services claims made against us from her. She was a teacher so her claims would initially have weight. Though were soon dismissed following a visit. The kids have protection notices on their files now stating they are at risk from false claims by her.
Even now years later I still get occasional grief, she lives in another country now thankfully but there’s always the worry she will return, though I’ve been told 3 seperate people have restraining orders on her there and she’s just been hit with 10’s of thousands of legal bills from people challenging false claims she’d made in court about then abusing her when she’d been abusing them. Think she has 4 or 5 victims now.
I’ve missed out quite a lot but it would take me hours to type everything she put me through