FOA anyone struggling or on their own at xmas

Boro for life said:
First year on my own following death of my beautiful wife and my dad this year so a very emotional hard one for me but I’m determined to get through it and come out the other side smiling , not easy believe me but I’m giving it my best shot . Merry Christmas everyone ❤️
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So very sorry for your loss, and mightily impressed with your attitude and fortitude going forward. Hope things work well for you
 
Boro for life said:
First year on my own following death of my beautiful wife and my dad this year so a very emotional hard one for me but I’m determined to get through it and come out the other side smiling , not easy believe me but I’m giving it my best shot . Merry Christmas everyone ❤️
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Oh no, you’ve had a terrible year. Sorry for the loss of your wife and your dad.

I hope you’ve been able to get as much help and support from those around you.

Have a great Christmas.
 
Just do what makes you happy...if that's being with loads of family, friends or both that's fine. If that's sitting alone just being you that's also fine. There is so much pressure on bring happy, on the dinner (look at it like I do...its only a ponced up roast dinner and I don't **** it up the rest of the year lol).
And for those who are struggling or need a chat etc please don't feel isolated...pop a post up.....I'll be back on at some point today having a nosey like most I guess....we'd all like to hear from you than have you struggling in silence
 
My first ever Xmas eve / Xmas morning being home alone this year, I must admit I felt very lonely and sad going to bed last night and am struggling to get any motivation to get out of bed this morning!
I'm having dinner with my family later, but I'm even anxious about that tbh, then dreading coming home to a silent house again , it really is a difficult time of year .
 
I'm at my parents. My 82 year old dad is cooking today. He forgot to put the brussels on last year and the carrots were raw. Also the turkey was borderline. He won't let me near the kitchen to help. So spare a thought for me. So I'd swap with anyone home alone in a heartbeat lol.

Clearly only joking. Yet as stated above its only one day. Just try to get through it as best you can. My dad's cooking disaster last year was down to our first year of not having my mum doing the cooking as she'd passed away.

It's amazing how much of a stress Xmas can be for many. That's either missing loved ones or just the financial side of it.

It's definitely not 'the most wonderful time of the year' for many.

I'm a bit gutted Boro are away tomorrow. I do love a boxing day home game with the old man. I live down south so don't see as much of him as I'd like. We used to go everyweek as season ticket holders.

On the subject of the 'old man'. I'm now going to remind my dad to put the carrots on earlier.

Happy Xmas... UTB🎄
 
As someone who lost my wife relatively recently, I am struggling a bit today but I will
prevail. Had some nice video messages from the grandkids already. Such a hard time of year for so many reasons. Just got this message from a charity I am involved in, posting it in the hope it might help others. Solidarity and merry Christmas to all. Hope everyone has the best day they can. 🎄🎅🏾🍷


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Dear xxxxx
I just wanted to send you a short note to let you know that I am thinking of you today. Dealing with grief is tough on any given day, and I understand that for some of you, today might be especially challenging.

This time of year is often portrayed as a season of family togetherness and joy, as the ads show us. But, let's be real, it can also come with a lot of pressure and a sense of isolation.

If life feels particularly heavy right now, please know that it’s not because you are doing anything wrong. This season can be incredibly tough.

However today unfolds for you, please be kind to yourself. Grieving is hard enough as it is without adding self-criticism to the mix. Please pause to think of the smallest way you can look after yourself today and this week.

Whether that means skipping Christmas entirely, staying in bed, binge-watching TV, toasting to someone special, reminiscing, shedding a tear, or devouring all the sweets... do what feels right for you. I'm in your corner, fully supporting you. Today is all about self-care, not judgment or comparison.

Remember, you're never alone. The Loss Foundation is here for you, always.

We look forward to seeing and supporting you in 2024.

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It is more stressful for people now than ever before. Years ago people would enjoy Christmas with their families, quietly, humbly, and behind closed door. Now lots of people post photos of their presents, their trees, and boast about their plans on facebook. There is little or no consideration for those alone or less well off.

They fill their shopping trolleys up in the supermarket as if Armageddon is near. Just like during the Covid crisis when they bought out all the toilet rolls. Sod the elderly and infirm, i'm alright Jack! God help us all if a real crisis occurred like a war.

Values and morals are rarely seen these days. As a man in his 60s I feel this is so sad and regrettable and yearn for a time when this wasn't the case.

Apologies for being a bit of a bah humbug but this is what I believe.

Merry Christmas to everyone. Even though for many the true meaning of Christmas is lost in the glitter and ostentatious behaviour.
 
Happy Christmas to everyone who is on their own this christmas.
I have been in that situation for the last 10 years, following my parents passing away, sisters living a distance away and my kids spend christmas day with their mother.
The positive side, is that I shall be spending boxing day at my daughters, she is entertaining me and her brother and I am really looking forward to it. They tell me spending time with mum is a duty but they are both looking forward to spending time with Dad.
So I have just got to get through today, treat it like any other day, put on some good music and get out the games for tomorow.

Happy christmas everyone !!
 
Well just a brief message to say I hope you are all ok and got through it.

Im stuffed from a five course pub meal - that it turns out I didn’t have to pay for- and I’ve a nice new North Face jacket. Which is bloody handy cos it ain’t stopped p1ssing down with rain here in the fens since about 2pm.

Back to normal tomorrow . Football and horse racing on the telly and if you live near a big Tesco don’t worry it’ll be open so you can get all the stuff you didn’t have that you so desperately wanted to buy today.
 
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