Wife doing the 30 mile challenge for dementia.

Hi woodall, it is on facebook. However, my wife may have it private, I'll message her and ask
 
A worthwhile cause. Having seen my Mam go through it and eventually loosing her life in more ways than one I personally thank Mrs. Laughing for what she is doing.
 
Laughing said:
Its an awful disease Norfolk.
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Very painful for the family as well. Lost my Dad during her demise but did not tell her, as she did not know him. Unseen 3 months prior to loosing her due to Covid. Luckily the family stuck with it and came out stronger. I have just bounced across some money. Looks like she has exceeded her target, well done Jo.
 
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Norfolkred1 said:
Very painful for the family as well. Lost my Dad during her demise but did not tell her, as she did not know him. Unseen 3 months prior to loosing her due to Covid. Luckily the family stuck with it and came out stronger. I have just bounced across some money. Looks like she has exceeded her target, well done Jo.
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Thanks Norfolk. Jo mentioned you last night.

It is a disease that effects the family emotionally. My dad isn't at the point where he doesnt know us yet. I am hoping, at 89,he doesn't get too that point.

He knows he is coming to the end and cries a lot. He tells me he loves me every time he sees me and he has never done that, ever.
 
Laughing said:
Thanks Norfolk. Jo mentioned you last night.

It is a disease that effects the family emotionally. My dad isn't at the point where he doesnt know us yet. I am hoping, at 89,he doesn't get too that point.

He knows he is coming to the end and cries a lot. He tells me he loves me every time he sees me and he has never done that, ever.
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Cheers fella. I mentioned to Jo last night that if you need an ear you are more than welcome to PM me. I am no expert but been through the turmoil and willing to chat on line. Thoughts with you and yours.
 
What an amazing thing for your wife to do. I am also not on Facebook but will find a way to sponsor her. I echo all of the above comments. My Mum has this disease and it‘s so difficult for everyone. My Mum is still with us (albeit in a care home) for which I am so thankful but she is not my Mum as she was and I miss her so much. Thoughts go out to all of you who have been through this painful journey
 
My Dad is 87 and has Mixed Dementia (Vascular and Altzheimers) diagnosed March 2022. He is going down hill fast - just off to do his dinner for him.
Mam also 87 has had Vascular for 9 years and is in the same Nursing Home bed she has been for over 6 years. She doesn't know me, hasn't since Covid period, which was horrendous. Both Dad and I wish she would gently pass, but on she goes.
Watching Dad go down a similar path is very upsetting.

I don't think there is much you can do but crack on. There is no upside to dementia, they are never getting better, only worse. I just try and make their time the best it can be in the circumstances.

My heart goes out to you Laughing - and everybody else impacted.
It is a cruel condition and casts its net far and wide.
Good Luck fella.
 
indeedido said:
My Dad is 87 and has Mixed Dementia (Vascular and Altzheimers) diagnosed March 2022. He is going down hill fast - just off to do his dinner for him.
Mam also 87 has had Vascular for 9 years and is in the same Nursing Home bed she has been for over 6 years. She doesn't know me, hasn't since Covid period, which was horrendous. Both Dad and I wish she would gently pass, but on she goes.
Watching Dad go down a similar path is very upsetting.

I don't think there is much you can do but crack on. There is no upside to dementia, they are never getting better, only worse. I just try and make their time the best it can be in the circumstances.

My heart goes out to you Laughing - and everybody else impacted.
It is a cruel condition and casts its net far and wide.
Good Luck fella.
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Seems awful writing it but I sincerely hope your nightmare ends soon and they can both be at peace.
 
indeedido said:
My Dad is 87 and has Mixed Dementia (Vascular and Altzheimers) diagnosed March 2022. He is going down hill fast - just off to do his dinner for him.
Mam also 87 has had Vascular for 9 years and is in the same Nursing Home bed she has been for over 6 years. She doesn't know me, hasn't since Covid period, which was horrendous. Both Dad and I wish she would gently pass, but on she goes.
Watching Dad go down a similar path is very upsetting.

I don't think there is much you can do but crack on. There is no upside to dementia, they are never getting better, only worse. I just try and make their time the best it can be in the circumstances.

My heart goes out to you Laughing - and everybody else impacted.
It is a cruel condition and casts its net far and wide.
Good Luck fella.
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That's tough going Indeedido, it's an horrendous illness. To see both your parents suffer must be hard to take.
My dad had vascular dementia and died back in 2012. It's a soul destroying condition for both the sufferer and those close to them. My mum coped bravely with my dad's illness for a number of years but eventually broke down and he had to go into a home which broke her heart. 18 months after he died she was diagnosed with advanced bowel cancer and died 6 weeks later. I'm sure she ignored the symptoms because of everything else that she had to cope with, at the end she asked me if it was punishment for putting him in the home.
 
indeedido said:
My Dad is 87 and has Mixed Dementia (Vascular and Altzheimers) diagnosed March 2022. He is going down hill fast - just off to do his dinner for him.
Mam also 87 has had Vascular for 9 years and is in the same Nursing Home bed she has been for over 6 years. She doesn't know me, hasn't since Covid period, which was horrendous. Both Dad and I wish she would gently pass, but on she goes.
Watching Dad go down a similar path is very upsetting.

I don't think there is much you can do but crack on. There is no upside to dementia, they are never getting better, only worse. I just try and make their time the best it can be in the circumstances.

My heart goes out to you Laughing - and everybody else impacted.
It is a cruel condition and casts its net far and wide.
Good Luck fella.
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It's painful indeedido watching them deteriorate and you articulated that very well.

My hope is that my dad passes before his quality of life is gone completely.

He still lives in our family home and recently had a visit for assessment. He isn't the type of man who could live in a care home, dumb, proud steelworker.

For the meantime with a lot of help he can stay in his home.

Thanks to everyone for the replies. Painful reading, but oddly comforting hearing others stories.
 
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