Have you ever lied there, allowed your mind to delve too far into the subject (regrettably) and scared yourself sh**less? Possibly irreversibly? How does one navigate around the inevitability when these thoughts occur? The paradoxical nature of this makes it even more uncomfortable as I've often wished not to exist at all...
Yes, in April 14th 2018, I collapsed on Shepherdson Way after a game , my heart just stopped due to my aortic valve being defective from birth,I played football until 50 years old, I didnt know this defect until then.
I didnt have a heart attack - it just stopped and it went into backflow. I fell and cracked my head above the eyebrow on the big kerbs there, and had another gash along the eyebrow.
I was dead for a few minutes according to the consultant (they can read your blood dont ya know), I was totally blue, sons and my friends were thinking that was it.
I remember it being very dark and cold and I could hear what I thought later was a radio playing that seemed miles away. In my head I looked around and thought of who I was and then looked in the darkness for my hands and feet.
Nothing!
So I set off, or so I thought (about 1 hour later try to recollect things in hospital) I aimed in the darkness for a very faint noise , very unsure of what it was and it was very dark. Bit by bit the noise grew a little bit louder I could hear water rushing around and then saw light like a dot but it was moving around, and then a bit like a train heading towards me I heard sound and the light turned back on and I could hear myself spluttering.
When I was in the ambulance, I couldn't see properly just a bright light but nothing else. I talked to me 2nd eldest son who has always been fantastic and was obviously in a situation with me.
Then I had an immense sense of well being and thought I'm not going to make this, but I've enjoyed everything in my life, its been a ball, I thought of all kinds in my life - My wife ,kids Grand Kids, Friends ,Parents, Family, Id had an fantastic life and was feeling grateful that I had knew them all.
A little lass in A&E, who I probably will never meet again got me through it all and even cracked jokes and although I thought this was it I had a chuckle in my mind, I could never thank her enough, but I suppose she does that everyday as a fantastic human. The same goes for my son. I had the heart replacement valve done after a week repairing my head injuries, 3 & 1/2hour op, no lungs or heart obviously, just a machine.
I was home after another 10 days.
Ward 32 JCUH got me through it all.
I was then diagnosed with Lung Cancer in Feb 2023.
NHS and Ward 32 and JCUH and NTUH to the rescue again, April 23 I had 60% of my left lung removed and Chemo finished the September. I was back at work in Nov 2023.
Again, I'm blessed and lucky to have people in my life that are priceless and I appreciate the whole shebang, the planet the universe, the plants especially the flowers.
I'm really glad I'm here, and felt life for what it is, not drugged up not drunk as a skunk, just feeling the highs and lows, because that's what happens in life.
You only get one go as they say , and when you look around there's to many people desperately fighting to cling on everyday, especially kiddies.
You have been involved in life for a long time now Scuba and you aren't noticing the good that you are and what's around you mate. Sure its easy to look on the downside, but the bloody ordinary is so fantastic.
I'm not scared of death, but there's still stacks of cups of tea to be drunk yet, plenty of music to listen too, family friends and acquaintances to be around. This cold dark place didnt seem to have any big TV`s
My final thought sometimes before sleep is, we are spinning on a planet 1000mph full of all kinds lifeforms, going around the sun at 65,000 mph, travelling with all the other good rocks and stupid pointless ones in a universe at 1 million mph, and there's no sign of the driver.