Mental health again

[boynogg]

Need a bit of help lad and lasses. Been reading this board since early 2000’s and decided to make an account a few months ago. Purely because the help I saw some people received who were struggling. Unfortunately I’m 1 of those lads at the moment. I’ve got 2 brilliant kids but going through a marriage break up. I’ve literally googled how to end it quickly and it seems a great easy fix. Thankfully my kids stop me because I can’t stand the thought of them not having their fun daft dad around. Especially my little lad who we both have season tickets. Please somebody tell me this **** gets better.

I don't know if you are working, or what your situation is, most employers now have a mental health first aid team or access to counselling for their colleagues, it might be worth taking a look at this. I have had previously suicide first aiders, which I'm not sure is worthwhile for you, the biggest hurdle is recognising you are in pain and understanding your links to life, I think you have already started down that journey.
Remember most people having thoughts of suicide don't want to kill themselves, they just don't feel like they want to be alive right now. You are NOT alone, there are many people who feel like this to varying degrees. I'm so glad you recognise your children's need to have a father in their lives. It's ok not to be strong all the time and I'm sure things can and will improve for you. Please make use of the support network that this forum offers!

 

[Legz]

You've took the first step.....writing this post and opening up with your issues.
Next it's just baby steps...just take it a minute at a time for now.
It will get better.....that sounds like a trite thing to say but it will and you have to keep that as a focus.
I'm glad you've got your kids to focus on and keep you going.
All the best....whenever you need an ear we're all here for you x

 

[Deary_me]

Appreciate every single 1 of the replies from people who I have never even met before. Restored my faith in humanity.
Every reply has made me feel I’m not alone going through this, so thank you. Whenever I’m going through ‘1 of those moments’ I’ll make sure to reread this thread.
Long few months ahead and it’s nice to have advice from people who have been through it. Luckily I enjoy my job so that keeps my mind busy during the day.

Again, massive thanks to everyone who’s replied. Hopefully other people who are going through something similar, but haven’t reached out yet, can take something from it as well.

 

[italianjob]

Need a bit of help lad and lasses. Been reading this board since early 2000’s and decided to make an account a few months ago. Purely because the help I saw some people received who were struggling. Unfortunately I’m 1 of those lads at the moment. I’ve got 2 brilliant kids but going through a marriage break up. I’ve literally googled how to end it quickly and it seems a great easy fix. Thankfully my kids stop me because I can’t stand the thought of them not having their fun daft dad around. Especially my little lad who we both have season tickets. Please somebody tell me this **** gets better.

I'm almost in the same boat, separated for 7 months now with 2 great kids. I don't know what to make of it all and it is very depressing, your life is turned totally upside down and a whole host of new challenges/worries appear.

I honestly don't have any 'make things better' advice as I'm still trying to figure out what I'm doing. The main thing is that it's not just you in one of these situations and definitely don't go for the easy way out!!!! I'd love it if my boy and I had season tickets together but he's too geeky for football :LOL: Kids will always need their dad, even if it doesn't feel like it sometimes!

Anyway, there's plenty of us on here for support/advice/to talk to.

 

[Casualwoolyback]

Need a bit of help lad and lasses. Been reading this board since early 2000’s and decided to make an account a few months ago. Purely because the help I saw some people received who were struggling. Unfortunately I’m 1 of those lads at the moment. I’ve got 2 brilliant kids but going through a marriage break up. I’ve literally googled how to end it quickly and it seems a great easy fix. Thankfully my kids stop me because I can’t stand the thought of them not having their fun daft dad around. Especially my little lad who we both have season tickets. Please somebody tell me this **** gets better.

Have you thought about giving Andys Man Club a try? I have attended the Whitby one since the start of the year and am now a facilitator with the group. The feedback from attendees every single week is that it does help, its a group of lads, all ages, all backgrounds and all kinds of issues.....but all with a common need that they need some support. There will likely be one near you, they meet every Monday from 7 until 9, and if there isnt one near they run an on-line session as well.

 

[r00fie1]

Need a bit of help lad and lasses. Been reading this board since early 2000’s and decided to make an account a few months ago. Purely because the help I saw some people received who were struggling. Unfortunately I’m 1 of those lads at the moment. I’ve got 2 brilliant kids but going through a marriage break up. I’ve literally googled how to end it quickly and it seems a great easy fix. Thankfully my kids stop me because I can’t stand the thought of them not having their fun daft dad around. Especially my little lad who we both have season tickets. Please somebody tell me this **** gets better.

Never stop talking Beazo83. Many one here to listen and show empathy and share experience.
Look after yourself.
Take care (y)

 

[sadgit]

I've only just seen this thread. Just talk, be honest, be you. I've struggled for over 4 (40) years now but i've learned to be kind to yourself. I have had all sorts of therapy and some actually made it worse. I do know one thing, it is in my hands to get better. Easier said than done.

AMC was amazing for me, really met some brilliant guys and that is when I knew I was not alone. After 2 years I started to take home other peoples problems, so I had to stop going. Give them a go if you can. I have no kids but living in a spare room due to my depression and self medicating with vodka. I still hope I can get this sorted but fking hell it is hard isn't it? DO NOT do something stupid, EVER..