How sad is this?

I was just going to use the word tragic. Such a sad story, and all too common in today's society. RIP
 
Yes it’s tragic.

I can’t fathom drinking that amount of alcohol each day and continuing to function.

I’ve had my battles with anxiety depression and I’m fully aware I use alcohol as a crutch to get through life. I identify with the mood swings and the playful joker bit.

But drink more than one bottle of wine in one night and I’m completely useless for days after.

Just shows you that you’ve no idea what’s going on in people’s lives doesn’t it.
 
Very sad for the bloke and people who knew and loved him.

If I drink 3 pints I put on weight - 6 pints and 2 bottles of wine every day I would be massive even if I exercised regularly.
 
It’s mad how far talent can take you, even when gripped with addictions.

Paul McGrath used to regularly play ***ed.
 
The price and availability of supermarket alcohol in this country is a disgusting shame. People wonder why the drink problems and where the old character pubs have gone. It's staring you in the face everytime you buy that cheap high strength garbage.
 
I often wonder how you become an alcoholic. My body has a self limiter that would stop me drinking long before addiction kicked in.

I did read something many years ago about a genetic component to alcohol addiction. It was in New scientist so maybe not very accurate.

It's a sad way to be and society needs to deal much better with addictions of all stripes.
 
Laughing said:
I often wonder how you become an alcoholic. My body has a self limiter that would stop me drinking long before addiction kicked in.

I did read something many years ago about a genetic component to alcohol addiction. It was in New scientist so maybe not very accurate.

It's a sad way to be and society needs to deal much better with addictions of all stripes.
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You don't need to drink large quantities to be an alcoholic. I used to work with a guy who only drank 4 pints of normal strength beer, but he did it everyday, he became anxious if things went wrong at work and there was a chance we'd be asked to work over.

Having listened to a number of episodes of the 'Under The Cosh' podcast there seems to be drinking culture in the lower leagues still and players with time on their hands, I expect there are plenty of others out there. Clark Carlisle speaks of losing days at a time but still functioning as a footballer.
 
American_Mary said:
You ok, Aet ?

What are you up to today ? It's not a bad day outside, bit breezy but bright enough.

Only a few days to the start of the season, which is always something to look forward to, how do you reckon we'll do on Sunday ?
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Start of the season has completely passed me by. Didn’t realise it was this weekend.
I’ve gone out walking, to try and forget mainly
 
Hello AET, I was wondering, have you considered getting a dog? THE most amazing companion, comrade, best friend you could possibly have. They will love you unconditionally, will always be there; never moody and it will give you a little focus I'm sure. Imagine if you rescued a dog from the dog's trust and you give him/her a wonderful life when he needed someone... a little like you need someone if you don't mind me saying
 
Michael_Vronsky said:
Hello AET, I was wondering, have you considered getting a dog? THE most amazing companion, comrade, best friend you could possibly have. They will love you unconditionally, will always be there; never moody and it will give you a little focus I'm sure. Imagine if you rescued a dog from the dog's trust and you give him/her a wonderful life when he needed someone... a little like you need someone if you don't mind me saying
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Yes I have it’s a lovely idea, not easy when I am out at work all day (as I was pre pandemic) and live alone though.
 
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Yes I have it’s a lovely idea, not easy when I am out at work all day (as I was pre pandemic) and live alone though.
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Can't recommend this enough. There's dog walkers and the like you can pay to help you out a bit. The cliché of man's best friend really is true.

Chin up fella, I've been there and it's a horrible place to be, but it will be abate.

As one famous sufferer of depression said 'when you're going through hell, keep going'
 
Laughing said:
I often wonder how you become an alcoholic. My body has a self limiter that would stop me drinking long before addiction kicked in.

I did read something many years ago about a genetic component to alcohol addiction. It was in New scientist so maybe not very accurate.

It's a sad way to be and society needs to deal much better with addictions of all stripes.
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It's not the quantity it's the reaction to alcohol that is key...People with a pre-disposition for alcohol abuse get an almost instantaneous euphoria from it.

There can be a childhood trauma factor - there is an index of Adverse Childhood Events (ACE) with sexual abuse the highest, suicide of a parent or close relative next, then parents divorce, bullying etc The higher ACE score the more likely as an adult the person will abuse alcohol and/or other substances

But for alcohol abuse to turn into dependency the person gets into a cycle of waking with unbearable fear/anxiety, craves alcohol to remove the fear, drinks until there is none left, wakes with even more unbearable fear/anxiety and repeats the cycle
 
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Michael_Vronsky said:
Hello AET, I was wondering, have you considered getting a dog? THE most amazing companion, comrade, best friend you could possibly have. They will love you unconditionally, will always be there; never moody and it will give you a little focus I'm sure. Imagine if you rescued a dog from the dog's trust and you give him/her a wonderful life when he needed someone... a little like you need someone if you don't mind me saying
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Some employers allow dogs at work- perhaps it is worth investigating. (Flipping 'eck,, I have even found a dog on the top of scaffolding when a construction manager used to bring his dog to work.) Or maybe you could volunteer as a dog walker or dog sitter at weekends.
 
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