Gold

[Funky_Chicken]

A £100 gold bar

 

[Juninhoburger]

Clearly funny is not your thing.

And that is one hell of a leap from won’t buy something I don’t like to being Trevor Jordash

Just stop.

Please.

 

[Alzi]

Some strong Andrew Tait small d*ck energy going on in this thread.

Imagine if everyone had the same logic as OP when it came to buying presents.

My 5 year old daughter was slightly confused when she ended up with the box set of Band of Brothers for her birthday recently but I just refused to buy her the Barbie doll she wanted as it's not my cup of tea.

 

[Alzi]

A £100 gold bar

Give it a few weeks of inflation and that's what Tesco will be charging for the biscuit.

 

[joeydiaz]

I’ve got a contact who will be able to help. He’s a very small Irish man, you’ll just have to meet him at the end of a rainbow.

 

[SmallTown]

Nope ! But if I perceive it to be cheap, nasty or I don’t like it then I think it’s a waste and won’t buy it. I would rather buy something that I think is better value that I also know she would like

Even if it's not the thing she wants? Each to their own I guess. It comes across as controlling, selfish and stifling to me but hey if she's happy with that.

 

[Juninhoburger]

Even if it's not the thing she wants? Each to their own I guess. It comes across as controlling, selfish and stifling to me but hey if she's happy with that.

Like I said, emotionally abusive.

 

[The_Big_Woodowski]

Like I said, emotionally abusive.

There is nothing abusive about it or for that matter my relationship.

Just because I choose to buy another present I know she will like and avoid buying something I don’t like is abusive. I fail to see the link.

Unfortunately I don’t have an endless supply of money to buy her everything she has ever asked for. Shame on me..

Anyhow nobody have any advice or knowledge on the original question

 

[The_Lizards_Jumpers]

Anyhow nobody have any advice or knowledge on the original question

Buy her a pony, it's what I'd prefer

 

[SmallTown]

There is nothing abusive about it or for that matter my relationship.

Just because I choose to buy another present I know she will like and avoid buying something I don’t like is abusive. I fail to see the link.

Unfortunately I don’t have an endless supply of money to buy her everything she has ever asked for. Shame on me..

Anyhow nobody have any advice or knowledge on the original question

Lots of people did mate. Bit you choose yonignore it and show how little you respect your wife

 

[Juninhoburger]

There is nothing abusive about it or for that matter my relationship.

Just because I choose to buy another present I know she will like and avoid buying something I don’t like is abusive. I fail to see the link.

Unfortunately I don’t have an endless supply of money to buy her everything she has ever asked for. Shame on me..

Anyhow nobody have any advice or knowledge on the original question

What do you expect her to do with a tiny sliver of gold?

 

[bevoboro]

A £100 gold bar

Would be as big as a Scrabble tile!

 

[The_Big_Woodowski]

Quite unreal how a bunch of keyboard warriors have managed to critically analyse my relationship with my wife when not knowing anything about either of us.

Managed to decide i am abusive, selfish and have no emotional intelligence or respect towards my wife, all because I would rather spend my money on something that i didn’t like the look of or think was value for money.

I would rather use the knowledge I have of my wife and get something that I know she would love and have a bit more sentimental value for both of us but also something I like the look of.

Think you guys have clearly missed your calling in life.

 

[The_Lizards_Jumpers]

Quite unreal how a bunch of keyboard warriors have managed to critically analyse my relationship with my wife when not knowing anything about either of us.

You've told us plenty about you, as you've outlined your "present" buying strategy - that's what people are commenting on.

It's not how most people work, but you obviously dont see an issue with it, so crack on and buy her whatever you fancy.

However we've established the amount of gold you'll get is negligible and so you're probably better deciding what else you, errr she, would like.

 

[bevoboro]

It reminds me of the episode of The Simpsons where Homer buys Marge a bowling ball for her birthday!

 

[Alzi]

Quite unreal how a bunch of keyboard warriors have managed to critically analyse my relationship with my wife when not knowing anything about either of us.

Managed to decide i am abusive, selfish and have no emotional intelligence or respect towards my wife, all because I would rather spend my money on something that i didn’t like the look of or think was value for money.

I would rather use the knowledge I have of my wife and get something that I know she would love and have a bit more sentimental value for both of us but also something I like the look of.

Think you guys have clearly missed your calling in life.

 

[The_Big_Woodowski]

You've told us plenty about you, as you've outlined your "present" buying strategy - that's what people are commenting on.

So from that “Strategy” (which has been exaggerated and taken out of context) you read between the lines and got abusive controlling husband. (Its not like she wants a pair of shoes and I go and get her a pair of size 11 football boots For my big game at the weekend)

Clearly you are unable to digest/understand or even see the nature of my intentions. Just because you don’t agree doesn’t give any of your wild assumption on me or my relationship any credibility. But if it keeps you entertained then craic on

 

[The_Big_Woodowski]

So you would rather use the 'knowledge' you have of your wife than the knowledge she has, in her own head, of what she actually wants?

This can't be for real, I am literally LOLing as the pig headed absurdity of it is hilarious.

You are either a comedy genius or i do feel a bit sorry for your wife.

No need to feel sorry for her mate!

Not entirely sure why I am even bother explain my self it appears we have decided on the type of person I am but anyhow…

She loves the presents I get her, she finds the really thoughtful and always shows them off when she can.

People I know always think they are well thought out and wish their husbands partners would take a leaf out of my book.

So yes I am struggling to to see the negativity thrown at me.

The gold is not something she particularly wants, it is a symbol of our time together. So this would be for our wedding anniversary and the traditional gift would be Ivory, and despite my lack of emotional intelligence I have no desire to go and kill an elephant.

So the suggested alternative is gold. I personally don’t like the look of gold jewellery so would not buy it. If she wants gold jewellery then that is fine but I don’t want to buy it. She has loads of jewellery both expensive and costume.

I thought a small gold bar would be a nice keep sake, a little bit different and something precious she would look after. Amongst other presents, i.e Ivory colours silk PJ’s (she always asks for pj’s) and a surprise night away.

Every year since we have been married I have bought her a different gift themed on the traditional or modern alternative as an anniversary gifts,

 

[SmallTown]

Quite unreal how a bunch of keyboard warriors have managed to critically analyse my relationship with my wife when not knowing anything about either of us.

Managed to decide i am abusive, selfish and have no emotional intelligence or respect towards my wife, all because I would rather spend my money on something that i didn’t like the look of or think was value for money.

I would rather use the knowledge I have of my wife and get something that I know she would love and have a bit more sentimental value for both of us but also something I like the look of.

Think you guys have clearly missed your calling in life.

It's based on the fact you refuse to get her presents she wants because it doesn't suit you. It comes across as, at best, selfish, at worst abusive and controlling.

 

[The_Big_Woodowski]

It's based on the fact you refuse to get her presents she wants because it doesn't suit you. It comes across as, at best, selfish, at worst abusive and controlling.

I totally disagree with your point. Do you buy everything your wife, children family want? If not does that make you selfish, abusive and controlling? If not I don’t think it does, and if you do then they will never appreciate what they do get.

It’s not that it doesn’t suit me either, would be much easier for her to go buy something for me to wrap, or tell me exactly what to buy. Would involve no thought or imagination? Could that approach not be viewed as lazy, selfish, unthoughtful and uncaring?

Isn’t part of the present the thought, creativity imagination, organisation and above all the surprise of getting such item that you where not expecting. The whole element of surprise?

I just like to buy and give presents that I think are nice, and that the recipient will also like/appreciate. I do also get her things she has asked for that she wouldn’t normally think of buying for herself.

If it’s something I don’t like I wouldn’t buy it! Why would any gift somebody something the think is horrible, cheap tatty or whatever, when you can get something different that you can see the enjoyment/pleasure in it by gifting it to them.

I can’t see the controversy.

She has her own money and can spend it how she chooses. If she wants said item then she is more than welcome to buy it her self.