Does an animal lover have to love all animals? Of course not. It is an oft misused phrase
I love any animals that I form a bond with, for example I have loved 3 dogs, 1 cat, 2 goldfish a rabbit and a hamster over the years. Do I love my neighbours dog, no I don’t, would I harm it, no I wouldn’t. I like some animals and would never harm one intentionally, but love is a special bond spent over time building relationships together.
I would not take responsibility for an animal unless I was prepared to nsure we could in some way socialise or I could ensure I was prepared to look after it as far as possible. The form of pet I struggle with are caged animals like hamsters, mice, snakes etc. i am not sure that is fair to them having had responsibility for looking after them.
Do I eat animals, well I eat meat, so yes. You can’t love or form a bond with someone or something you have never met. I show love to any living creature bar flies and wasps and anything capable of killing me like funnel web spiders, brown snakes etc. I could never chose a lobster from a tank or a goose in a field or a pig in a sty and have someone prepare it for me to eat, My conscience would not allow that, but i do love a sirloin steak, lambs leg or pork loin and some succulent chicken breasts for example. I would never kill an animal out of personal choice, but i do eat them where others have.
Do i consider myself a hypocrite? No I don’t, some might, but i do know everyone reading this has personal skeletons in their cupboards bursting to fall out. As rightly said, social conditioning, personal survival, tastes, traditions, dislike of substitutes etc all come into play. One thing people do forget is that if humans did not eat meat, many animals would never experience any life whatsoever. Would you prefer to have lived and loved and been looked after for a third of your life and be culled without knowledge or never to have been born at all? We all die at some point, many don’t last a lifetime, through accident, human tragedy, illness, harm from others etc etc. So long as it is legal, live your life as you wish and respect the thoughts and wishes of others, every living soul has a place in mother earths food chain, even humans get killed and eaten too and we don’t always have a say.