My son was diagnosed 2 years ago but it’s something we had suspected since he was young. He has global development delay, dyspraxia and other learning difficulties which has had a big impact on his development. Diagnosis took a long time and we had a long battle with CAMHS for a few years but we got there in the end.
School at the moment is very supportive, he has a brilliant one to one teaching assistant who has known him since he was in Nursery (he is now year 4). Academically he is behind and working more at a year 2/3 level. School has been challenging in the past with certain issues but that’s more of a higher up level (SLT) than teacher/ta. Luckily we seem to have sorted that but it did take council intervention/governors. I am a teacher and my wife is very knowledgable on SEND so we have been able to draw on that experience when dealing with issues.
He is currently in mainstream school but it’s already been agreed that he will require specialist provision for his secondary education. Mainstream school would not be an option for him.
Everyday is different with him, somedays he is talkative and happy, other days he is angry, confused and lashes out. His behaviour can be challenging and as he gets older, it’s something that is becoming more difficult to deal with. He cannot read social situations, often says inappropriate things which others can portray as rude, has few friends and those that he thinks are his friends are not when we have found out things they have done (recently some of his “friends” ignored him in front of my wife and he defended them when my wife asked about it. He said that happens often but it’s “normal”).
Luckily he will eat a varied diet but will not try new things. We persisted with food when he was younger which seems to have helped as he will eat a number of different items. Food colouring can cause issues though. Certain colours of food make him gag, for example if he sees green dyed food at Halloween, he will gag at the site or thought of it if it’s mentioned.
He goes to bed without much fuss but he has always been an early riser (this can be anywhere between 12-5am). He doesn’t like to be told to go back to bed as he thinks If he is up then it’s time to be up regardless of the time. He has gotten better as he gets older but 4am is the usual get up time.
He likes the comfort of home and routine, doesn’t feel comfortable outside of that environment. Any change can cause crisis. We haven’t been abroad since before COVID but he didn’t deal well with it as there was no routine and it was all new. We are due to go away in the Easter holidays so we will see what that brings.
He hates clothes, doesn’t like them on and quite often will want to be in no clothes. As soon as he comes in from school, the clothes come off, weekends etc. When he does wear clothes, he prefers loose fitting, baggy clothes.
I think the biggest issue/worry I have faced is not knowing what quality of life he will have as he grows up. He may catch up academically, he may always struggle. He may require help etc and that is a something I think any parent would worry about.