So it's happening...my hair is beginning to depart 😭😭😭

It’s a great rant girl, and one which is very much acceptable and appropriate for your condition. I know when I joined the military I was very conscious of showing my buzz cut, why? I think we all have our limits on what should be the cultural norm for the way we want to be and what might be seen as acceptable. In the end I just learned to deal with my buzz cut.

In closing my message is you wear what you wear with pride because this is you and it proves you’re a free spirit who can overcome the obstacles in life called fear. You are enough as they say!
 
JackG said:
the bad news is you'll start to look like the rest of the board. The good news is it's temporary!
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Speak for yourself. At 65 I still sport a full head of hair.......2 full ears of hair and a full nose of hair.
Look after yourself @Legz. If you want I'll save you my ear hair clippings, you'd have enough for a wig in no time.🙄
 
Legz said:
And I'm finding this tough...I don't know why...I knew it was going to happen, it will come back. I'm not a girlie girl so it's normally just scraped back into a scruffy bun/ponytail anyway. Why am I so bothered?? Is it because people are gonna stare?? I mean I can use wigs/hats/scarves etc, I already have a wig....but its not 100% the same. Maybe I just need time to get use to it then I can embrace it...maybe the moment has finally come where everything from the last 4 months has become "real" as people are going to know now....I have an outward sign....I mean bloody hell I only have one t!t and a whacking great scar from breast bone to armpit and that hasn't and doesn't bother me in the slightest!!
I mean it's weird isn't it...gender stereotypes...no one bats an eye at a bald bloke but do with bald women.....you wouldn't bat an eyelid at a women in trousers but you would a bloke in a skirt!!!
Need to pull me socks up and get back on the positivity train 🚂🚂🚂🚂
Thanks in advance for listening to me rant xx
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I totally get how you are feeling and have been through this myself. I was the same not usually bothered making much of an effort, but when the choice is taken away I was wanting curls and french plaits. But I will say this it grows back and even better than before! You are right about bald blokes lovely as they are but it is a different thing as a woman. You are a strong woman and embrace that, wear your scarves, wigs, hats whatever makes you feel good on that day at that time. Or all at the same time! What I found was that the number of people who come up to you, pat you on the hand, give you a hug and share their own experiences it does make you feel that you are not alone. And you never will be on here :)
 
I'm a virtually bald bloke who shaves his head regularly otherwise I look like a mad professor because its patchy and grows all over the place. I also like the feel of a bald head, for some reason it feels pure and the contours are real and closer to you and who are are rather than a mass of dead oily cells extending from your head that get dirty and need so much care. I look at pictures of my young self with thick long wavy hair and I hardly recognize myself. I really don't care about my hair at all.
Having said that, I'm not a woman whose self-image in this society is so controlled by cultural norms of beauty. it's hard for a man to understand what women experience.
I take the Buddhist view. Monks shave their heads to let go of what is really just a bodily extension of the ego and a pretty useless yet controlling one as well.
So, bald is really beautiful, physically and spiritually. It's just a case of how you see it.
Take care.
 
Hang in there.

I lost all my hair to chemo too when I was younger. It grew back much thicker after treatment finished.

Now I am the only one of me and my brothers that hasn’t gone bald in older age. Our dad was bald too.

No idea if the two are connected but just pointing out it’ll come back and likely thicker than it was 🙂👍
 
I'm also going through this and I'm like you: some things don't bother me but then something else I'll find really difficult. Hope your treatment is getting you to where you want to be in the end. Keep on keeping on.
 
Schlumberger said:
I'm also going through this and I'm like you: some things don't bother me but then something else I'll find really difficult. Hope your treatment is getting you to where you want to be in the end. Keep on keeping on.
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And you too....weird isn't it how it messes with your head...keep going xx
 
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