No sense of humour.....


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It’s a term the guys on a league of their own use to describe Jamie Redknapp. Never heard it anywhere else, I presume it means he’s a bit “wet”
If one of my colleagues called me an obscure name I'd want to clarify just how badly I'd been insulted.

Incidentally S7DiscoDown, is that what you meant by melt? That he was a bit wet?


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I called a work 'mate' a melt. He said 'Do you mean I'm a snow flake?...... Mmmm nope just a 'melt' 😂

He actually went to one of the bosses to tell him I'd called him a melt. The very definition of bizzare.

I guess this falls into this category. I mean if you go running to a boss because someone calls you a 'melt' you've got issues😂. Then again if you're a boss who thinks this needs addressing then also part of the problem lol.

I should stress I don't use the term. It was just me being polite and not saying how I actually felt.

He should try working in a kitchen. Some of the **** we get called and call ourselves would have us hauled in front of a HR rep in any other job with an instant dismissal.


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Can you imagine having to come to work every day and be on the receiving end of relentless "banter"?

it must be soul destroying and exhausting.

As an employer, why would you want any of your employees not feeling "safe" at work? and not in a position or mindset to deliver to their potential?

its just good for business and great for mental health.


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Personally, you can only hurt or upset me if I know or care about you. Otherwise it’s just noise.
as for this message board it seems to be populated by a lot of people you could happily enjoy a pint with. Also there seems to be some acrimony between certain posters, why not start a new thread in which you pull each other to pieces and the rest of us don’t have to trawl through the rubbish to get to the ‘Boro stuff’ UTB


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A sense of humour is a bit like common sense, in that there is no such thing as a correct or standard level.

One person's lads lads lads, top bantz, shat it you melt is another person's abuse.

If you are in a group of people and you are not entirely sure whether everyone will appreciate your comedy genius then i'd say it's best to tone it down until you have read the room.


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For people in their 50's: Do you feel you've had to tone down the banter as the years have passed?
Absolutely some of the things I said in my 20s, jokes I told, probably not just sacked but potentially up in court!

Times change, you either make yourself aware of the "new sensibilities" or you become just another dinosaur shaking a fist at the approaching asteroid. (Currently most often observed in anti mask/lockdown demos)


Do we want to say that Yorkshire people are no longer as blunt or straight talking as once they were? ( I say that as a Southern Soft namby Pamby )


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For people in their 50's: Do you feel you've had to tone down the banter as the years have passed?
Don't think so. I've always been the person to go too far (in real life, not on here) and say terrible things just for a laugh, and I still am. But there's a difference between saying stuff to make yourself the fool, and picking on people more vulnerable than you, or not as quick as you. I always tried to punch up or self-deprecate, rather than put someone else in the line of mockery.

I think many situations arise because the perpetrators - the people who I suspect call such stuff 'banter' - are just a bit tone-deaf.

Johnny Vincents Motorbike

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its only 'banter' when they get called out - up to that point its macho williee waving whilst pretending to be a smart@rse.

its usually followed by - "lost yer sense of humour" and mutterings of 'sad'....

say or do something funny and you will get plenty of laughs, say something thats overly belittling, racist, misogynistic or ignorant and you wont.

comedians, hardest job in the world.