FAO HOLGATEWALL

Nosmo-King

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Good afternoon , pal . I don’t know you or your circumstances but I wanted to share with you my experience- and hopefully show there is light at the end of any tunnel.
In 2013, my wife was misdiagnosed. By the time we got the correct diagnosis, she was taken into hospital and passed away 22 days later. Lung cancer then going to her brain. Never smoked. It hit me like a sledgehammer. No kids, took it all on. I wondered how I managed to get through - but somehow you find an inner- strength that helps you get through.

Was it easy? Can’t lie, no. Does it get any easier? Yes, but takes time. We were married 33 years and she was a wonderful lady.

I have been lucky and found a wonderful lady I am married to. Not after sympathy just to show you that dark days do eventually go. Good luck and stay strong.
 
Sorry to hear that Nosmo. Glad you have found happiness again mate. Ive lost a few very close family members (dad & brother) myself over the last few years and agree its not easy to deal with and you feel so alone at times, but agree it does get easier over time, in my humble opinion it has too. Some people ask what grief is like in these circumstances, I say in all honesty, god knows. Me personally, its like everyday you expect it to hit you hard, but it never does, and whilst the sadness remains, its remarkably taken over by a fondness of the people you have lost, the memories you shared with them etc.

Sorry for hijacking the thread, but just want to let people know who lose a loved one, that time really is a great healer, and there are plenty of people out there who will stand side by side with you to help you get through these times. We may argue and fall out over our beloved Boro on here but thats just life, there really are some great people on here, and we are all here to listen, especially when you think there is no one too listen.

Keep your spirits up all of you. I really mean that.
 
Good afternoon , pal . I don’t know you or your circumstances but I wanted to share with you my experience- and hopefully show there is light at the end of any tunnel.
In 2013, my wife was misdiagnosed. By the time we got the correct diagnosis, she was taken into hospital and passed away 22 days later. Lung cancer then going to her brain. Never smoked. It hit me like a sledgehammer. No kids, took it all on. I wondered how I managed to get through - but somehow you find an inner- strength that helps you get through.

Was it easy? Can’t lie, no. Does it get any easier? Yes, but takes time. We were married 33 years and she was a wonderful lady.

I have been lucky and found a wonderful lady I am married to. Not after sympathy just to show you that dark days do eventually go. Good luck and stay strong.
You deserve all the happiness Nosmo-king, nice of you to think of someone especially during these present times & Christmas too
I remember you telling me when we went to the match together about your wife & I was chuffed for you that you got remarried
 
Hi Nosmo.
Thanks for this as im just sat here on my own waiting for the funeral on Friday. My kath fought hard right to the very end (3rd December) before finally succumbing to Ovarian Cancer which we thought she had overcome only to be struck down late October being told it had spread to her liver.

Your story gives me hope at this sad time.Thanks so much.
 
Hi Nosmo.
Thanks for this as im just sat here on my own waiting for the funeral on Friday. My kath fought hard right to the very end (3rd December) before finally succumbing to Ovarian Cancer which we thought she had overcome only to be struck down late October being told it had spread to her liver.

Your story gives me hope at this sad time.Thanks so much.
Sorry to hear of your loss Holgatewall, I wasn't aware of your sad news
 
Sorry to hear your news Holgatewall.I lost my younger brother and both parents in a very short space of time.Somehow,like me and others on this thread,you will find an inner core of strength to deal with it all.Please do take time for yourself to let out grief,it helps,it really does.We will all be thinking of you on Friday Sir.
 
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