Anger, hate, jealousy, revenge

Borotommo

Borotommo

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All eats you up, really, doesn’t it?

my poor lad has just been dumped by his “forever” girl, just as they ship off to Uni. He’s found out she’s not Quite as devoted to him as he was to her. Horrible for an 18yo in love.

life‘s hard knocks can really eat you up, if you don’t let them go, and flip the offenders the bird as you move on to greener pastures with your new shining armour of knowledge in place.

Let ’em go,
 
We've all been there. Horrible helpless feeling. Character building though, he'll learn one of life's harsh lessons.
 
Ah, that really hurts. The exact same thing happened to me - we left sixth form, I thought our whole lives were ahead of us, and straight after our final A Level exam she took me out behind the barn and put the bullet in my head. I've never really got over that horrible feeling, even though I'm very happily married now.

Sorry - that's not a very positive contribution! Hope he deals with it better than I did.
 
Borotommo said:
All eats you up, really, doesn’t it?

my poor lad has just been dumped by his “forever” girl, just as they ship off to Uni. He’s found out she’s not Quite as devoted to him as he was to her. Horrible for an 18yo in love.

life‘s hard knocks can really eat you up, if you don’t let them go, and flip the offenders the bird as you move on to greener pastures with your new shining armour of knowledge in place.

Let ’em go,
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Sounds like his Dad's in his corner with him though and has some good advice for him. That would mean a lot to your lad even if he doesn't know it right now.
 
Borotommo said:
All eats you up, really, doesn’t it?

my poor lad has just been dumped by his “forever” girl, just as they ship off to Uni. He’s found out she’s not Quite as devoted to him as he was to her. Horrible for an 18yo in love.

life‘s hard knocks can really eat you up, if you don’t let them go, and flip the offenders the bird as you move on to greener pastures with your new shining armour of knowledge in place.

Let ’em go,
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I know you will but keep an eye on him.
Big changes in life like leaving home for for the first time can trigger all kinds of irrational emotions but to be dumped on top of that...
Few of us have never been dumped, takes years if ever to get over it.
He won't see it now but she's done him a favour.
 
Flip it round, I went to uni but was too soft to break my then girlfriends heart who had a year of A levels left. I let it just go on for a couple years while having no commitment to her at all.

I still look back at the young man I was, partly with shame and don't recognise him. Should have just been straight up.
 
Best advice I can give is to delete her number so that the talk is only started by her. It may turn out she realises what she’s lost and get in touch, but if he doesn’t hear anything in 2 weeks then he know she’s not worth bothering with

if he keeps her number and makes the contact it’ll just make her resolute in her decision. Also drunken texts will not help him here

that’s my take, and advice I received when it happened to me. Didn’t hear anything after 2 weeks and it helped me move and not chase that person anymore
 
GazC_MFC said:
Best advice I can give is to delete her number so that the talk is only started by her. It may turn out she realises what she’s lost and get in touch, but if he doesn’t hear anything in 2 weeks then he know she’s not worth bothering with

if he keeps her number and makes the contact it’ll just make her resolute in her decision. Also drunken texts will not help him here

that’s my take, and advice I received when it happened to me. Didn’t hear anything after 2 weeks and it helped me move and not chase that person anymore
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Same. going back over a decade but best thing i did was delete from social media, phone, everything. Agreeing to stay friends in the hope they'll come round will just prolong the process. Hope he's doing good!
 
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