When did you start to think about dying?

Brian Marwood

Brian Marwood

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I know this is quite morbid but I wil be turning 50 in a few months and the last 20 years have passed so quickly. Celebrating my 30th birthday feels like a few months ago. If the next 20 pass by as quickly then I will be 70 in the blink of an eye. My body has started feeling old in the past few years, my joints ache, it's an effort to get off the sofa and climb the stairs, I can't have a full nights sleep without waking for a pee at least once..... I am actually starting to get old!

All of this now makes me realise that my life has been like a three week holiday, the first week is just wild and carefree, the second week is more relaxing and at a slower pace and the final week you try to do as much as possible knowing it will be coming to end in a while.

So much of my thinking time now is consumed with what happens after, pensions, property, finances, my wife, my kids. What do I need to get done for them.

When did you start to realise that you are getting old and approaching that 'final week' of your three week holiday?
 
Start looking for a bungalow now. Get your finances / pension sorted. Start looking at a retirement date when you hit 55 (or sooner) then re-visit the topic when you turn 60. :)

Enjoy the next 10 years.
 
Well I hadn't thought about it until I opened this thread!

I started planning seriously for retirement about 2 years ago. I am 56.

You are right about how quickly our life passes us by. One minute you are going to madisons the next this guys in love with you is playing and it's time to go home.
 
Brian Marwood said:
I know this is quite morbid but I wil be turning 50 in a few months and the last 20 years have passed so quickly. Celebrating my 30th birthday feels like a few months ago. If the next 20 pass by as quickly then I will be 70 in the blink of an eye. My body has started feeling old in the past few years, my joints ache, it's an effort to get off the sofa and climb the stairs, I can't have a full nights sleep without waking for a pee at least once..... I am actually starting to get old!

All of this now makes me realise that my life has been like a three week holiday, the first week is just wild and carefree, the second week is more relaxing and at a slower pace and the final week you try to do as much as possible knowing it will be coming to end in a while.

So much of my thinking time now is consumed with what happens after, pensions, property, finances, my wife, my kids. What do I need to get done for them.

When did you start to realise that you are getting old and approaching that 'final week' of your three week holiday?
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35 Y.O. and have been thinking about it for a few years, depressingly. Particularly seeing replays of old Boro clips makes me think "how the hell is that 20/25 years ago?" Then I think how quickly thats gone and realise in the equivalent time I'll be 60 - if I'm still around.
 
An old friend this month just died of a brain haemorrhage , totally out the blue. Old neighbour few years back also dropped dead at bus stop both appeared healthy had no prior warning signs. So i think about it often. More cautious in what i eat, drink, smoke and try to exercise regularly . But thats not even a guarantee.
 
Laughing said:
Well I hadn't thought about it until I opened this thread!

I started planning seriously for retirement about 2 years ago. I am 56.

You are right about how quickly our life passes us by. One minute you are going to madisons the next this guys in love with you is playing and it's time to go home.
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Love the Madison comment haha (y)
 
70+ already. Still lots of gas in the tank yet. Lots of things still give me a buzz. You know what is pretty low on the list! Pick my granddaughter up from school and seeing the new starters rush out and meet their parents/grandparents is just great. Still playing walking footie twice a week.
Yes there are more aches and pains but you tend to just get on with it.
did think about my funeral the other week decided I don't want one you can get a direct cremation now so you don't have to fork out 1000's.

Tip get up in the morning. Ask yourself "Does the day end in Y?"
If it does then Hunky Dory
 
When I lost my wife 5 years ago this month it really brought it home to me. I had lost my mother just a month before but she had been ill for a while and we knew it would come but my wife was totally out of the blue. So much so I thought it was my son making a bad joke when he phoned at three o'clock in the morning to tell me. I was offshore at the time.

One of my best mates died last year of a massive heart attack while he slept. For about a month after everytime I got into bed "I thought is this it is it my turn tonight".
 
I'm 44 and already think about it. It's not so much about 'age' but just how easy it is to die. I drive slower and avoid confrontation on nights out etc.

I watch people fighting and think 'one punch could kill someone' or cars flying past me doing 120mph with kids in the car (often whole families).

I don't drink half as much as I used too and eat pretty healthy / jog to try and maintain a healthy (ish) lifestyle. I guess it's all to try and extend it.

I think the most sobering thought is everyday I read about folk who've died far younger than me. Also recently had a couple of close school friends diagnosed with cancer. You start to think 'am I next' 😕

It's all a bit depressing. 90% of the time I just crack on without giving it much thought. You can't worry everyday about how you may die.... You'd never do anything. My parents are 83 and 80 and still going strong. I'd be 'happy' to get that far.

I also think this last 18 months has made people question mortality etc. It's also made people feel a bit depressed and down so you think about morbid things more.

Still plenty to live for. I'm hoping to hear the champions league music blasting out at the Riverside before I depart lol
 
asredastheycome said:
When I lost my wife 5 years ago this month it really brought it home to me. I had lost my mother just a month before but she had been ill for a while and we knew it would come but my wife was totally out of the blue. So much so I thought it was my son making a bad joke when he phoned at three o'clock in the morning to tell me. I was offshore at the time.

One of my best mates died last year of a massive heart attack while he slept. For about a month after everytime I got into bed "I thought is this it is it my turn tonight".
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That's a sad story asred. It's one most of us can tell in some format or another.

A school friend died last year and it really knocked me too.
 
Almost daily .. I'm trying to "come to terms" with it before I get there .. I don't want my last 3 months to be full of sadness and / or anger when it comes .. I'd rather try and deal with it now so I can face my final experience of life with the same attitude as I do with every other experience .. with wide eyed wonder.
 
S7DiscoDown said:
I'm 44 and already think about it. It's not so much about 'age' but just how easy it is to die. I drive slower and avoid confrontation on nights out etc.

I watch people fighting and think 'one punch could kill someone' or cars flying past me doing 120mph with kids in the car (often whole families).

I don't drink half as much as I used too and eat pretty healthy / jog to try and maintain a healthy (ish) lifestyle. I guess it's all to try and extend it.

I think the most sobering thought is everyday I read about folk who've died far younger than me. Also recently had a couple of close school friends diagnosed with cancer. You start to think 'am I next' 😕

It's all a bit depressing. 90% of the time I just crack on without giving it much thought. You can't worry everyday about how you may die.... You'd never do anything. My parents are 83 and 80 and still going strong. I'd be 'happy' to get that far.

I also think this last 18 months has made people question mortality etc. It's also made people feel a bit depressed and down so you think about morbid things more.

Still plenty to live for. I'm hoping to hear the champions league music blasting out at the Riverside before I depart lol
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More chance of hearing that music at the Pearly Gates or in my case with Lucifer as DJ 😱😆
 
I don't think I ever thought about it when I was in my forties or fifties , but now I've had checkups and tests over 5 years and been cleared of an illness I regard it as a major triumph if I keep clear of the doctors for 3 months.
That said ,I am awaiting a call back from the doc for a telephone "consultation " and I shall be attending a friend's funeral later in the week.
 
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